What is coaching?
Coaching is a partnership that empowers you to make the changes you need to get the life you want. You'll get really clear on what you want in life, then get really clear on what is holding you back, and then move those things out of the way.
Good coaching helps you see the world differently. Because once you see the world differently, the world changes. Who you think you are, what you think you can and can't do and what really matters to you starts to get a whole lot clearer, and results easier to achieve.
But I’d also say that its so much more fun and interesting to experience coaching rather than to read about it. If you're curious why not book in a call and experience a conversation?
So is it like therapy or consulting?
In a word, no.
With therapy I'd be diving into your past to resolve the deep inner issues you’ve got going on. We may touch on some of those but we don't need to go there. I'm not so interested in the past and what has been happening.
Then there's the work of a consultant who'll say: here's where I've been on my path and I'm going to take you there. Here's the 17 steps that will get you to where I am. I don't do that, because my work is about transformation, not information.
I'm working with you, so what I'm interested in is the future you want to get to, the present where you are right now and the gap between them.
Because what I'm REALLY good at doing, is helping my clients bridge that gap.
What I've seen is that gap between your present and where you want to go is often far smaller than you might currently imagine.
SIGN UP TO MY NEWSLETTER FOR MORE IDEAS, INSIGHTS AND AH-HA’s
I won't share your details with anyone. 100% Spam Free
Why would this type of coaching be right for me?
That’s for you to decide. One of the things that usually happens is that people often try to work out the answer to this question before they’ve actually had an experience of coaching.
Coaching is a transformative not an informative process. I coach around insights, not instructions.
When you see something different – for yourself – then everything changes. Forever. (That’s why just reading ten more tips on productivity isn’t going to help you work less and earn more. You need to have the insight of what that means for you. Sight from within.)
Again, the best way to see if this is right for you is to have a complimentary session with a coach and see what comes up for you.
How much time will it take? How much does coaching cost?
Like anything that is potentially life-changing, coaching requires an investment of commitment (time and payment being part of that commitment).
But if this is your first experience of coaching, looking to weigh benefits and costs to make a decision before you even know what you’re looking for is kind of putting the cart before the horse.
Apologies if I sound like a broken record here, but coaching is an experience that is unique to you. Bespoke. Not time-based.
Let’s have a conversation about you and what you want and go from there...
How does each session run?
Every session is bespoke for each client, purely because each client is different. I work with you and I am devoted to what you need and the context we have set together for your coaching program.
I don’t use any templates or assessment tools. These things might give you some interesting awareness, but awareness alone doesn’t generate any lasting transformation.
I’ve also seen that people often use assessment results as a crutch, or an excuse for not doing what frightens them. I’m much more interested in the life that you want to create, and finding out your innate desires and gifts. That is who you really are - and using a standard template to uncover these only ever scratches the surface at best.
How do we meet for the sessions?
Via Skype Audio or on the phone if in UK.
But I don’t like talking on the phone
I used to be like that too, but then I saw that this was just a story I was telling myself based on an incident that I was giving far too much meaning - when I was 5 I answered the phone and talked to someone I thought was my Grandad, it turned out it was actually my Dad's friend and it freaked me out a little. But really, it was a totally innocuous, almost silly event that had stayed unchallenged in my subconscious and developed into a fear.
When my coach helped me see it was just a story, only being re-experienced in my habitual thinking it suddenly made no sense to feel scared by it anymore. And talking on the phone stopped being an issue.
Plus the truth is that Skype audio or the phone is the best way to experience coaching. It frees you up from the self-consciousness that video calls, or meeting in person can create, and it is no less intimate or impactful, in fact its often more so.
How do I know you're any good?
When someone asks this what they’re really meaning in a round about way is, can you help me?
And the quick answer is: right now, I don’t know.
The only way to find out is for you to have a conversation with me, and for us to explore what you need help with. You’ll know if we’re a good fit after you’ve experienced coaching with me.
And if you want to find out what other people think, you can of course check out my testimonials. But then what someone else found insightful and powerful you may not. Isn’t it always best to experience a meal or a vacation for yourself rather than read about it on trip advisor?
One thing is for sure. When we work together, you have my 100% attention and my service. No amount of credentials can substitute authenticity. I know that in my business and in yours.
What if I am not sure what I want to do?
That’s totally fine, I’m not the sort of coach who’s obsessed with goals, goals, goals.
Being unsure and simply knowing that you want to make a change is a perfectly good place to come into coaching from. If you don’t know what’s next, but want to find out, this in itself is a goal.
Sometimes, the first part of a coaching relationship is getting clear on what you really want.
And I’ll let you into a secret, its very rare that I meet a new client who is 100% focused on what they want to do.
Most people have a hard time identifying what they really want and even feel a bit uneasy truly asking for what they want. That’s why they hire a coach.